In about two years, I will be turning 30.
Growing up, I was one of the few who was afraid of getting older, especially if I have not made a name for myself yet.
I heard our 20s would be the best years of our lives, and I’ve also heard that the 30s would be the best years of our lives.
I can’t speak for my 30’s yet, but for my 20’s…I feel like it wasn’t the best year so far.
I feel like throughout my 20s, I was in the bulk of learning, growing, and exploring life outside of being a minor.
I was seeing the world in a way where I had to start making decisions for myself, having to book my own appointments, moving to the mainland solo, and most importantly, figuring myself out.
I mean, I think I’ll continue learning about myself until I’m 80.
But throughout my 20’s, I definitely opened doors to genuinely looking at myself, understanding myself, and loving myself.
I used to think I would love being in my 20s for the thrill of exploring the world and myself on my own, but I guess I just loved the idea of being considered a ‘young adult.’ I hated, and still do, being called ‘old’ or in my ‘prime.’
Now, I think I’m looking forward to the next decade of my life.
But before I welcome my 30s, there are still I would love to accomplish in my 20’s. And I’m giving myself these next two and a half years to do so.
These are goals that I have not done at all in my life yet, and although I do believe that goals should not be put in a timeframe, I think this will help push me to accomplish more goals throughout my 30s without feeling pressured to get them done before my 40s.
30 Before 30
My parents hadn’t taken a vacation in about 20 years. They’ve worked hard throughout their lives providing for us and making sure I was able to follow my dreams. They deserve a relaxing time away from reality.
I currently have two pairs, and I aim to have two more. There is a reason why I want to have four ear piercings.
If I have the space and finances, I will rescue and adopt all of the street dogs I see around the island. For now, a puppy, and possibly an adult/senior dog, would fill my home with more love and happiness.
I was so close to attending SuperM’s concert back in 2020, but due to the pandemic, it was best to cancel our attendance. I hope within these two years, I can attend concerts from at least one of my current favorite artists.
I almost accomplished this back in high school, so now I would like to challenge myself even more and actually fulfill the task I dreaded the most 10 years ago. I know this will take time, and I have to pace myself, but just like many success stories in life, the key is to stay consistent. And I will try my best to do so.
I’ve had this on my goals list for years now. However, this time, I truly want to forgive myself and move forward in life. There’s this saying about if we continue to live in the past, we won’t be able to live in the present, and I felt that. I have to accept that the past happened for a reason, and I wouldn’t have had the emotional growth if I didn’t go through what I went through.
I’ve been focused on creative projects for work that I think it’s time I also prioritize creative projects for myself and for those near and dear to me.
I have a lot in mind on this, especially when I’m driving around the island and I see places that could use some help. There are still some roadblocks to how I can accomplish this, but knowing that I really want to give back to the island, I am going to find ways to help.
So far I am much better at understanding the language and dialect…if they are spoken slowly. And I am able to speak the language, but I do often forget the translations and I get stuck. I want to be able to speak them fluently so as to be more connected to my ancestors, and so I can continue passing on my blood heritage to my own kids and remind them where they came from as well.
There is a lot, and I often don’t know where to start, but I know that in order for me to love myself even more authentically, I need to heal everything that has been hurting my soul.
I’ve been growing my blog for over two years now. It has always been a way for me to release my thoughts and feelings without feeling judged. Lately, I’ve always been growing it into something more for visitors to enjoy or receive helpful tips and advice on. I’ve still got a long way to go, but I’m getting there.
I’m currently learning about four different languages, other than my native tongue. And similar to my native tongue, I am much better at understanding them than speaking them. I hope that I’m able to at least hold a simple conversation with a native speaker of any of the languages that I’m learning.
As much as I want to pay off my student loans in full, I’m going to bring myself down to reality a bit and reach the 50% goal at least. If I’m actually able to pay off more than planned, then that would be flipping amazing.
I have a lot of things I want to do in life, and one of them is to create and put out products and designs that I would personally love to own myself. These are styles that portray my thoughts into visions, and I hope they can connect with those that stumble upon them.
Many people say that size does not matter, and I agree with that. However, when it comes to myself, I know I can’t fully love and accept my physical body in the weight that it is in now. I’m not working to be extremely skinny, I just want to be able to lose the extra pounds and feel more comfortable in my own skin. There are many clothes I want to wear, but will only feel confident doing so when my waist is a lot more fitting in my eyes.
My parents love fresh vegetables, and I’m on my way to applying more veggies to my diet. I think that having my own vegetable garden is not only appealing to the wallet, but we’ll know that the food we’re growing is the richest in natural resources that they can be.
I really want to visit South Korea and Japan, especially during the Cherry Blossom season.
I have specific goals I’m trying to hit, and I pray that I manage my time well so I can get more content out and grow these platforms. Instagram and Youtube are the ones that I need to work on the most.
I love long car rides (mainly when I’m not the driver, but for the sake of the road trip, I wouldn’t mind driving…at night). And I’ve heard driving along the coasts is a must-experience adventure.
I’m currently designing a website for a client, and it’s made me miss designing a lot. I also have an app in mind that I hope to at least get the design aspect done, and work on making it live as soon as I can.
As I’m forgiving myself, I know that I also need to let go of the pain that others have caused me. I need to stop wondering about the “what ifs” or waiting for answers because I might be the only one who is still holding on to that experience.
I want to be able to enjoy the water activities on the island. For years I was terrified of going down water slides, and riding on the banana boat because I don’t know how to swim. I also would love to enjoy the deep end of the swimming pool and not hold on to the side for dear life.
I’ve been too afraid of doing things on my own because I didn’t want others judging me, assuming that I’m a loner with no friends. I shouldn’t care. I’ve learned years ago that if I can enjoy my own company, anyone else’s opinion of me won’t matter and I’m one step away from fully loving myself.
I’m slowly changing my diet with portions and what I eat on a daily basis, but I would love to step it up during these next two years. Instead of chips and sweets, I’m going to eat more fruits. (Don’t get me wrong, chocolate is a major exception because I love it.)
First, I would love to figure out what even is my blood type. I’ve had my blood drawn before, but I don’t think the results of that experience mentioned my blood type, and I didn’t ask them. I’ve been wanting to donate blood for a while now for no reason other than just to help someone in need.
I can and I am making this happen.
I still do not really know how I’m going to go about this, but if a path opens for me and it’s something my soul is calling out to, then I’m going to follow it.
The island isn’t as safe as it used to be, and I plan on doing more solo travels. I want to be able to defend myself should a time come for me to be defensive.
I often write about the experiences I haven’t had the chance to accomplish yet, but I think I need to humble myself a little and write a list of experiences that I have accomplished during the last three decades of my life.
What are some goals you’d like to accomplish in your teens, 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, or 50’s?